Happy Thursday!–Resolving Angry Feelings

I have currently been plagued with angry feelings toward someone I am close to. The angry feelings are not allowing me to experience the level of happiness I want to maintain. My anger stems from this person not doing something I want them to do—it’s totally ego oriented in my case.  I know that I must acknowledge my anger and then take my feelings out in other ways such as brisk walking and exercising.  Recognizing that I cannot impose my will on others just for my own ego’s sake is the way to go.  Yet, the ego is strong.

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My approach is to trick my ego and indirectly nudge it to consider other points of view about the person I am angry with—important benefits I have reaped from being involved with this person.  Once I do so, my anger can dissolve.  I love this person and want to always regard them in the very best light.  I want to feel peace and satisfaction and happiness in all aspects of my life.

So, during my walk the past few mornings, I thought only of the good deeds this person has done for and with me and all the wonderful interactions we have had. I called up details from memory about as many as I could think of in the time given. Then I visualized the person as happy and joyful—and concentrated on their aspect in general, refusing to let any feelings of anger enter in during this time.  I also ‘sent’ them happy loving thoughts–mental express mail.

I then used the joy of nature’s beauty to soothe me and foster my good feelings toward this person. Here are a few pics I took of gifts from a neighbor to the world around him— beautiful flowers with the ability to infuse the mind and senses with the wonder and appreciation of nature’s glory.

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I walk several miles/40 minutes in the morning 4-5 times per week. Using my approach, I focused on resolving my anger for at least 30 of those 40 minutes. In the end, I came to a better place with my feelings and where I stand in relation to this person. I can still have surges of anger about the issue before me, but I refuse to focus on the bad feelings. Instead, I immediately jump over to the positive and pleasant aspects of our relationship and the many benefits I experience there. If you are ever having similar challenges, I hope you will consider my approach—maybe it will work for you.

If you have a better way, I would sure like to hear about it.

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Hope Your day is filled with Happiness!–Judy

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